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“Compromise” – Relationships, Health, & Well, Everything

4 Aug

My lovely blog readers: this weekend, I am headed home to visit my family. Part of this (along with relaxing, bonfires, and kayaking), will be to celebrate my grandparents 65th Wedding Anniversary.

Sixty-five years of marriage. That’s not something you hear often anymore.  Recently, I asked my grandfather how they did it– how they made it so far, through so much, together.  A man of few words, he replied—“You Compromise.”

I’ve been thinking a lot about what he meant by this and the way compromise plays a role in so many parts of our lives.  It’s such a huge part of the way we navigate the world, and our relationships.

com·pro·mise/ˈkämprəˌmīz/

Noun:
An agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions.
Verb:
Settle a dispute by mutual concession.
Synonyms: noun.  agreement – accommodation – settlement – conciliationverb.  come to terms

All relationships have some element of compromise as you integrate your life with another person’s. It can be as small as I vacuum, while he does the dishes. Or, it could be deciding to raise your children celebrating both religious holidays.

We all have to give a little and take a little. I know I’m guilty of being hard headed and wanting my way. But, if that’ll get us through 65 years filled with five children, war, ups and downs and so much more—I think that maybe we should all start thinking about compromising a little more.